The Lavenson
W.I.F.M. Meter
(What's In it For Me)
- Copyright

Committing to Imago Relationship Therapy and Counseling
You might ask yourself:

Is It Worth The Time, Money and Energy?

Step 1: The Decision
"To Go or Not To Go, That is question"

 

Take this test that will help you calculate the impact
in your life, that going to counseling, or, not going to counseling, might have.

Hidden Costs:
Measuring the Emotional, Physical, Spiritual and Financial Cost of Marital Conflict

Emotional :

Indicate Percentage of Impact or effect on your ideal level of
Emotional Well Being and Contentment i.e The stress from unrresolved marital conflict is effecting my Emotional Contentment 60%,or 70%, or it might be 20%

Percentages

Stress_________________________________________________________________________

Anger_________________________________________________________________________

Shame_________________________________________________________________________

Loss of Relaxed and Joyful times____________________________________________________

Depression_____________________________________________________________________

Anxiety_______________________________________________________________________

Self Medication_________________________________________________________________

Lethargy_______________________________________________________________________

Self Medication_________________________________________________________________

Loss of Concentration____________________________________________________________

Happiness______________________________________________________________________

Loss of Humor__________________________________________________________________

Loss of Hope and Optimism_______________________________________________________

Vacations Postponed, Shortened or Cancelled_________________________________________

Preoccupation with thoughts_______________________________________________________

Sense of love or being loved _______________________________________________________

Itimacy _______________________________________________________________________

Average Percentage of Negative Effect on Emotional Relaxed Joyfulness = _________________
Add up all the percentages and divide by 17. Then enter number above

2. Physical:

Indicate Percentage of Impact or effect on your ideal level of
Physical Well Being and Health i.e The stress from unrresolved marital conflict is effecting my Health 60%,or 70%, or it might be 20%

Percentages

Stress___________________________________________________________________________

Allergies_________________________________________________________________________

Sleep___________________________________________________________________________

Aches___________________________________________________________________________

Cold and Flus_____________________________________________________________________

Appetite_________________________________________________________________________

Self Medication___________________________________________________________________

eye sight_________________________________________________________________________

hearing__________________________________________________________________________

Skin sensitivity____________________________________________________________________

Intgernal Organs__________________________________________________________________________

Stomach_________________________________________________________________________

Neck and joints___________________________________________________________________

Comfort of clothes_________________________________________________________________

Breath and endurance______________________________________________________________

muscle strength___________________________________________________________________

Fleixibility _______________________________________________________________________

Average Percentage of Negative Effect on Physical Health = _________________
Add up all the percentages and divide by 17. Then enter number above

3. Spiritual

Indicate Percentage of Impact or effect on your ideal level of
Spiritual Well Being and Health i.e The stress from unrresolved marital conflict is effecting my Spirituality 60%,or 70%, or it might be 20%

Percentages

Friends_______________________________________________________________________________

Family_______________________________________________________________________________

Work relationships______________________________________________________________________

Children_____________________________________________________________________________

Parents______________________________________________________________________________

Neighbors____________________________________________________________________________

Connectedness___________________________________________________________________ _____

Shut Down___________________________________________________________________________

Faith________________________________________________________________________________

Caring about others____________________________________________________________________

Sensitivity to the world__________________________________________________________________

Self Image____________________________________________________________________________

Percentage of the day feeling uneasy or unhappy______________________________________________

Optimism____________________________________________________________________________

Fun_________________________________________________________________________________

Personal Goals and Dreams______________________________________________________________

Family Goals and Dreams _______________________________________________________________

Average Percentage of Negative Effect on Spiritual Wellbeing= _________________
Add up all the percentages and divide by 17. Then enter number above

4. Financial:

Indicate Percentage of Impact or effect and then mulitply times Dollar Value of are on your ideal level of
Financial Health and Security i.e The stress from unrresolved marital conflict is effecting my Financial Picture 60%,or 70%, or it might be 20% and mulitiply that times annual dollars effected, salary, bonus, payments, costs, etc. Some of these values may Negaitve Values and Some Positive Values i.e The effect of home improvement may mean not being able to afford to put on a new $20,000 roof, so the effect may be an effect of - 50% of maintenance allowance of $40,000 = (Loss) or - $20,000

DOLLARS

Focus at Work: estimate percentage of effect______% x annual salary $______________________ =______________________________________________

Job Productivity: estimate percentage of effect_____% x annual dollar value of required productivity $______________________ =______________________

Annual Income: estimate percentage of effect______% x annual salary $______________________ =_____________________________________________

Investment Opportunities estimate percentage of effect______% x annual salary $_________ =___________________________________________________

Vacations estimate percentage of effect______% x cost $________ = _______________________________________________________________________

School: estimate percentage of effect_____% x annual dollar value of school choices $______________________ =_________________________________

Hobbies for Kids: estimate percentage of effect_____% x annual dollar value of hobbies $______________________ =______________________________


Hobbies for you: estimate percentage of effect_____% x annual dollar value of hobbies $______________________ =_______________________________


Savings: estimate percentage of effect_____% x annual dollar value of Savings $______________________ =_____________________________________


Upgrading Home: estimate percentage of effect_____% x annual dollar value buying or selling home $______________________ =____________________

Home Improvements: estimate percentage of effect_____% x annual dollar value of improvements $______________________ =______________________

Income: estimate percentage of effect_____% x annual dollar value of promotions, raises, bonuses $______________________ =______________________

Potential Income estimate percentage of effect_____% x annual dollar value of potential income $______________________ =______________________

Investments: estimate percentage of effect_____% x annual dollar value of investment opportunities $______________________ =______________________


Total Dollar Value of the Effect on Financial Status Health = _________________
Add up all the Dollar values and then enter number above

 

The Average Percentage of Time Every Day that is devoted to dealing with the results of being in conflict is _______________
It is equal to the average of
the above numbers from The Effect of My Emotions, Physical Well Being, and Spirituality

The Total Dollar Impact of being in Conflict = ___________________

2. Step Two
Now Answer the First Question:
Is it Worth The Time Money and Energy?